(Re) Define Your Life: It Starts With Expectations

I’m no different that you. Only in that I’m completely different than you. And you, and you and you….

Why do we feel the need to compare ourselves to what’s “normal”? What exactly is the standard measuring stick for life? And especially for such a jumbled mess of an industry like the health and wellness world.

Do you know what healthy lifestyle means?

Set The Expectation

It’s kinda up to interpretation, isn’t it? I think the lines blur on such an emotionally fuelled topic. Here’s a great example for those of you skeptics out there:

While running a “5km easy jog” through the streets of Toronto might be a mole hill to someone accustomed to a few 10ks and half-marathons, as they’ve likely had more opportunity to learn proper technique, the benefits of cross training with resistance training and in seeking out a certified professional to ensure their movement patterns are up to snuff in order to accomplish the 5km…. someone that is brand new to exercise - never mind running, a whole different kinda monster - will look at the 5km like Mt. Everest. The social pressure from the folks saying it’s “an easy jog” will consume them and they’ll end up going in completely unconditioned and unprepared. Here’s my take: 5 kilometres of such an unforgiving (and inefficient movement if I might add) is wicked hard on the body, joints and worse - ego. We want to be uber-confident in our ability to complete the task at hand when undertaking something new. Why? In order to build up confidence and the motivation to do it (or something similarly positive) again!

Unfortunately, in my experience what happens more often than not is they do it anyway and like Anchorman “Whammy!” They blow a hamstring, roll an ankle or experience mad DOMS (delayed onset muscle soreness) and absolutely hate running, blaming the activity for their ineffective management of expectations over their own goals.

I’m not saying running a 5km is a bad idea without training for it (okay, I am actually saying that…) However I am saying what you envision as a 5 km may be just running around after your kids in the park on a Sunday afternoon and not feeling like a bag of dirt for the rest of the week. Make sense?

Here are my Top Three Success Secrets To Crush Your Goals!

  1. Be realistic about how the path to success is a journey. You’re on a ride and there will be ups and downs. If you expect it to always be perfect, you’re going to be disappointed.

  2. Keep going. Focus on what you can do right now, even if that seems like a small, insignificant task. Dwelling in the past, what you did last week, yesterday or an hour ago, is not a productive use of energy. Move forward.

  3. Behaviours, not outcomes make for success. It you chip away at the daily habits, have fun, understand that your definition is your definition and no one else’s, you’ll be successful. One step at a time. Progress, over perfection.

To close, what I’m saying is that we all need to walk before we run and sometimes when we’re really fresh to it, we gotta go back to crawling before we walk…

Set expectations that are within your means. Know that while you may not be where you want to be quite yet, where you are is right where you’re supposed to be. Also, I don’t advise running a 5km without proper coaching. That’ll be my next post… Something on injury prevention. wink

Til then, set your goals and make them about YOU!

Stay sweet, y’all.